Adoption trauma creates feelings of “worthless” and “special” which are frequently perpetuated throughout an adoptee’s life. “Worthless” stems from the mother’s rejection and “specialness” stems from the adoptive family choosing to adopt the child. This creates a lifetime pattern that oscillates between “worthless” and “special” and usually goes unrecognized due to the non-acceptance that adoptees experience great trauma when separated from their natural mother.
Also… very important to female adoptees is the frequent rape that occurs on their newborn day. This is either a penis inserted into the infant’s mouth or a mother who places the infant on her clitoris before breastfeeding (associating sex with food). While this occurs frequently with non-adoptees, it aggravates the adoptive trauma and reinforces the oscillating behavior towards feeling worthless/special. Unless recognized consciously, this will create a repetitive subconscious behavioral pattern that continues through all of life.